In September 1989, my wife and I tied the knot. She was 21 and already employed as a court reporter and I was 23 and still trying to find myself. I had been in the service (USMC) by this point but still hadn't finished my undergrad degree and was experimenting with different careers (artist, importing/exporting, professional lecturer) which my wife graciously tolerated. But we were married and something about that dynamic is very good for men.
Recently there have been a spate of articles and books on how people aren't getting married young anymore (the average is 30 now) or not getting married at all. In addition, dudes are losing the skills necessary to get a wife and don't want to expend the effort at all with this Wall Street Journal article as an example.
Being married matures you by giving you no outs. To begin with, I want to say that although I was very poorly mentored, I believed in a Christian view of marriage that emphasizes commitment over feelings. After a few years of trying to launch my own business, I began to feel like a real schlub. My wife was out there working full-time and I was working part-time. It made me feel pretty un-manly. My wife and I discussed this and decided I needed to go back to school, finish my degree and get a career. At 26 I finished up and went into the field of education.
Within a few years I was moving up the ladder as an administrator and had enough of a career to support my wife and our soon-to come daughter. Before my oldest daughter arrived on the scene my wife was able to quit her job (a very lucrative and skilled one) and become a homemaker and I then spent a couple of years juggling our finances as we went from being DINKs (double income no kids) to being Ozzie and Harriet. And this is where I, as a man, thrived but we had to make many sacrifices. No nice new cars every few years. No eating out most of the week. No nice vacations. But we were a man and woman in full.
So, why are men acting like overgrown adolescents and not getting married? Because no one expects them to. And that includes young women. If young ladies keep going on "dates" with these overgrown apes that consist of a text-messaged invite and end with having sex with the dolt, you get the cultural effect you deserve. And if men tolerate these man-children by not calling them out, or letting them stay in their basements instead of saying, "son, time for you to go out and make your own way in the world" then we get the cultural effect we deserve. Being married and taking it seriously makes men do things they don't want to do but grows them in ways they never dreamed possible.
So the point is being married is hard. Being married costs. But being married is what is best for most men and women and society. It grows you up because you have to and it makes you take good, bold, though calculated risks because marriage itself is risky. So step up to the plate boys and be a man!